You guys probably seen the Philippine news lately regarding the shipment of the balikbayan boxes problems. It’s been really a big controversy here in the Philippines and all through out the world wherever the Filipino community lives. Really at first when I saw the picture of a guy on the thread on FB with a guy’s half body with a snake or a crocodile, I though it’s a big joke or another movie/comedy here in the PI. Ha ha ha, I was just so naive that I didn’t know it’s already been a serious topics with the OFW and the Filipino living abroad.
I guess the head of the customs here wants to tax more on the balikbayan shipments. Also they want a thorough inspection. The problems and complaints of the OFW and the Filipinos with the “thorough inspections” the inspector will not put back the items that they’re inspecting into the boxes. The accusation of the people now is that the inspectors pocket a lot of the good items that the inspector saw in the box. I’ve seen one FB thread “that some of the customs officers opens the balikbayan box and if those customs officers saw some goodies that they liked inside the box, they will take it”. They showed on the thread the good and nice gadgets and electronics stuff that were taken out from the boxes by people from the customs.
Here some link to the news: http://www.interaksyon.com/article/116428/video–boc-raises-hackles-with-balikbayan-box-inspection-rule
Seeing those post of the OFW that saying that they’re boxes were open and the stuff inside were stolen. It’s heartbreaking. Some of my friends that’s OFW and some that were living abroad, they’re joking about their boxes that they’re sending and on the way to their families here in the PI, they’re just really hoping that their boxes will arrived here in the Philippines and the boxes still intact. They said they are hoping that those customs officers will leave their boxes alone, because they paid big money for the content of the boxes and they already paid the shipment and they did declare the proper content of the box.
To be honest some people really made fun of it, and some are really very funny. Even the local TV shows here made fun on it. I’m pretty sure that the customs people were not laughing about it. If I were them they should solve this problem soon because it’s really damaging to them. I can’t blamed the people that really complained about their boxes my gosh they were saving to buy those stuff for their families here and some people will just get it co’z they liked it. So everyone are just hoping that the boxes should be deliver to the address that were name in the boxes and it should be remain sealed as it is.
Some more news about the balikbayan box: http://philnews.ph/2015/09/03/boc-chief-bert-lina-apologized-to-ofw-for-the-balikbayan-box-controversy/
I was talking to Aaron about the brouhaha here with the balikbayan boxes. Now he seems a bit worried I think. Aaron will be coming home soon and before he leaves the USA, he is intending to send his stuff through balikbayan boxes. How he’s a bit hesitant of sending his boxes but I told him that I think it’s okay to send. Crossing my fingers. He will be sending boxes for sure because we are going to get some stuff that we want from there and he will send that through balikbayan box. I will definitely post here for update with the boxes. LOL
If your boxes were open and stuff was stolen or if your boxes arrived safely feel free to share your thoughts here.
Hi readers I got this email from a reader on my other blog. She emailed me privately and asking some advice for her niece’s problem. To be honest I just don’t know what to tell her. I am asking you guys’ advice on what to tell her. I’ve seen and heard too many stories of cheating spouses. I want you guys’ input to what I should advise and tell this lady on what to do. Some of the words in the emails were written in Tagalog. I tried to interpret in English as good and as accurate as possible.
Dear Feyma, I’m a reader of some of your blog. You don’t know me. But I will introduce my self. My name is Mindy. My family lives in Northern Luzon. I am an OFW in Kuwait. I am writing and needing advice for my niece. She lives there in the Philippines. She has been married to her husband for over 5 years now. They had a baby last year. Her husband is a seaman. He travels abroad, works on a ship.
My niece was shocked when her husband came home last March 2015. He didn’t give any money to my niece. He told my niece that he wants to separate. My niece asked him to just stay for their daughter’s sake. The husband don’t want to be married anymore. My niece told me that when her husband started going abroad his family said bad things about my niece. Her husband got help in going abroad financially from the parents of my niece. When my niece give birth to her baby the Papa & Mama of my niece paid the hospital and other bills, until now the husband did not pay them. After the husband went abroad many times, they bought house and car. My niece wants to sell the house and car and all the other properties now that he wants to separate. The husband told my niece that she won’t get anything. He even get all the jewelries and electronics gadgets that he gave to my niece.
It turns out now that the husband is having a relationship with the working student that was helping my niece while she was pregnant. That working student was sent by the parents of the husband. My niece found out the relationship when she accidentally open the private email of the husband because they share a laptop. The husband forget to log out. My niece saw all the emails. He denied but my niece showed him the email. He still denies. The husband abandoned the baby now.
My niece was just so shocked that she doesn’t know what to do. What should my niece do? Salamat sa payo (advice). I will just wait for your reply. Sincerely, Mindy.
Honestly I’ve been hearing too many stories like this. It even happened to our neighbor before it’s the lady that works abroad, similar situation the lady went abroad to work in the Middle East. When she gets home the husband already had someone on the side, so they separate went back abroad and later the lady end up marrying an OFW that she met there in the Middle East. Others too, the lady who works abroad found someone there (abroad) and later the lady will separate to the husband here and she moves in later to her lover abroad.
Too many stories that probably you hear or it happens to someone you know. I want to hear what would you guys advice if it happens to someone you know? I will pass you guys message to Mindy.
I really appreciate any advice given to Mindy or to those readers that were just shy to share here.
Today, I have another installment in my “Dear Feyma” series which I have been featuring on this site for some time, whenever I have a question from a reader that I feel should be shared with the site readers.
“Dear Feyma, I am Filipina who works in Kuwait for a long time. I came home in the Philippines for 3 months now. I am not sure if I will go back soon. I am thinking of taking care of my 2 kids and want to start a business here. I saved some money for our future. I will help my husband on our small farm.
By the way, I am not writing regarding my problem. I want to share with you of how stupid or no nothing at all (walang kaalam-alam in Tagalog), I saw on TV, they said naive. I saw that you wrote about “A Friendly Advice“. I don’t comment, I’m just an avid reader of your blog. Keep up of what your doing.
The young girl, our neighbor she’s like 20 years old, having a relationship with foreigner. For me, okay lang. I am bothered when the lady takes all the money of the foreigner and spends it for partying and clothes. The foreigner told one of the family member that he don’t have much money, but the lady don’t listen, she continue her partying. Being young so she party and spend the money with not important things.
I read I think from your blog a long time already about foreigners problems with girlfriends here in Pinas? You know, if they know already problems like that happened before why they still give money to the girl?
I hope that foreigners open their eyes. Thank you for reading my email… Maraming Salamat, Elly“
Thank you for writing Elly. To be honest, what you’ve described on your email keeps happening. The problem, the foreigners, no matter how good any blogs in the world were written about be very careful not to be scammed. Some foreigners will never listen, some won’t. We’ve been advising people that emailed and asked us and we even made lots of posts regarding that same topics. They will do what they thought was best for them. Later we found out that they’ve lost almost all their money. Really the best thing for those people would be for them to learn their lesson the hard way. It might be harsh for me to say this. Let them lose all what they have for them to learn. You know what I mean?
Hey, we’ve been advising certain foreigners that we cared about. It’s just a waste, they will say what the lady did to us and at the end he was against us because we said what we think. So for you Elly, if the foreigner wants an advice from you, try not to say anything to him at the end he might blame you because of the advice you gave him. Been there, done that. Been burnt. Not again…
That’s another cycle for the foreigner that’s hard to break. I just hope to some foreigners that they will just accept the loss and move on. Don’t be drinking and be violent here. Being in jail is the last thing a foreigner wants here. I’ve seen the jailhouse in the Philippines: Ain’t pretty you guys.
Thank you again Elly for the email. You open my Dear Feyma again. I appreciate your courage to write. If you ever travel to Kuwait again, have a safe trip there. Good luck to you!
Have a blessed 2015 Everyone!!!